Bully at workplace

Bully cases often we relate with students and schooldays, but somehow take place in workplace. It does not only when the victim is being hit, but often in a silent way. The silent way that are popular are giving the unnecessary, ridiculous work to victim; teasing victim through a bad name and many more.

Bully is a social disease, it occurs everywhere. The term bully has no specific definition, but it can be understand as one repetition ridiculous behavior being done to the victim that affect emotion, health and safety of the victim.

Gender, personality and ethnic.

Bully cases can be happen caused by gender, personality and ethnic. This occurs especially when the victim is the only one different among the colleague. There’s not only the women become victim, there also cases where victim is man.

Signs you’re being bullied

1. Your colleagues or head always seeking your fault, or comparing you with other colleague.
2. Your head purposely appoint a meeting at the time he knows you cannot attend.
3. Your head or colleagues sabotage you with informing you last minute, or he just left it without informing you.
4. When your head under pressure, you are the place he release his stress by pointing your entire fault.
5. When you finish up a task, the head appreciate other person.
6. You’re given a task that is not for you when the people that suppose to handle it can be relax.
7. When nobody want to listen to your voice, order or suggestion even you’re at higher position.
8. Your motivation for work reduced.

How to avoid bully?

1.      Main point, don’t react. When we react, the particular person feel that he already can catch your mood. Soon, he’ll stop it.

2.      Make your character stronger; show them that you’re not the easy person for them to bully.

3.      Make it clear your opinion when you want to say something. Don’t keep it silent.

4.      When the thing come worse, lodge a report to the top management, police or labor department.

Source:

 Utusan Malaysia, 16.2.2010

Eizan Ariffin, Nur magazine, Jan 2010

How to love our job

We get a job after graduates, or during our schooldays, we have something to do. But, not every single job we love to do.

 There are two options we have; loved to do it, or pass it to others (resign). The second option is not the point this time, but how to love our job.

1. focus on positive thing

Sure, we have reasons why we hate the job but impossible there’s nothing special for doing it. Try to figure out the positive things about the task.

2. take it as experience

If not now, when you can gain the experience? Take this as advantage to improve, find out our ability and strength.

3. chances to improve

The experience will show us where is our weaknesses and strength. These are changes for us to make ourselves better. If you’re a student, it worth when you start working later. For worker, take it before thinking of resign.

4. aim a target

Aim a logic target to satisfy yourself. If at this time you can only make a letter, try to aim to make paperwork or a report.

5. take it easy

Being scolded by a head make us feel upset. Don’t take it so serious. Calm down, find the way to avoid the mistake that the head scolded you or, at least reduce it.

6. change the routine

Everyday do the same thing will invite bored in a heart. Change it; perhaps your cloth or table arrangement. The major things maybe we can’t do much but these simple things help.

7. change the position

If, you think you can do more, inform the leader. We don’t know if we’re not trying it.

8. ask for feedback

Don’t feel satisfied enough or feel not good of your job. Ask feedback from colleague; how is the performance, where you need to repair etc..